Sunday afternoon visit. We served them tea and some homemade
goodies. I offered the goodies to each one personally, but i did so
My husband was so irritated with me that I stopped at one offer. He
pulled me aside and urged me to offer the goodies twice more. Two
more times, but they already declined once! He told me that offering
only once was like a half-hearted attempt, that you really could not
care less if they ate the item or didn't eat the item. A well-bred
hostess will offer the same item three times to each guest and if
they decline on the third attempt, then you can give up. You've done
your part and they feel good that you really cared that they eat
something but they just didn't feel like it. So I went back and sure
enough some did eat when prompted for the third time.
So the next time we had people over, I offered three times in a row.
Do you want this?
are you so you don't want this?
Not at all?
My husband was livid - it seems you have to pepper it thru the
evening, otherwise you're just being pushy.
i guess my ancestors really were barbarians. :(